Be the bigger person

As the queen of taking things personally, it’s sometimes hard for me not to walk away from a situation thinking negative things about the other person. Of course, it would be a far easier world if people said and did the right thing all the time, but sadly that’s not quite how it works, is it?

To cut a long story short, I was spoken to in a way I didn’t like today and it was apparently my issue (because the phrase “means something different in Spanish”). No no, it might not be my first language, but I speak it every single day and I know full well that this is just a dumb excuse to undo the idea that maybe you shouldn’t have used the tone of voice you did. Why not just say “sorry, I didn’t mean it like that”? It would SO EASY.

I could go on and on about everything that made me cross, but the actual conversation doesn’t matter now. Instead, here is a list of reasons why I’m the bigger person:

1. I could have bitched about that conversation with my housemate, but didn’t

2. I’m 11 years younger than this person, and am already more self aware that they are

3. I could have continued arguing given the level of emotion I felt, but I just left it, knowing I wouldn’t win

Side note, while I’m content with where I am in my career right now, I wouldn’t want to be doing this same position in 11 years time. I want to always be getting better and better and achieve more things. I’m not a complacent person, and I wouldn’t settle for this in a decade. I could be totally wrong, but maybe there’s a bit of jealously there?

Food was tough today. Really, really tough.

5 thoughts on “Be the bigger person

  1. I’m saddened by my observations over the course of time when it comes to my peers. Age doesn’t mean wisdom, experience or even awareness. I have friends who are college age that are far more self aware and wise then friends who are my age (half a century). When it comes to people with EDs specifically, I find that no matter what a persons age is, EDs are like a fast track to maturity. It’s heartening to see your wisdom in this situation.

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